by Varsha Dixit
However words, spoken or written have staying power. They can haunt you, hurt you and sometimes in minutes shake your confidence of thirty, forty or more years. Any kind of work that is presented to people is bound to be critiqued. The feedback can be motivating, uplifting or downright soul crushing.
Nowadays with the social media, global sharing is easy, so is being globally trashed.
Being an author with four books on the shelf, I’ve experienced it all - reviews that are humbling, positive, very positive, negative and downright soul crushing. Fortunately the last one has been the least!
For me handling negative comes easy. It doesn’t haunt or hurt me for more than seconds. I can very easily shrug my shoulders and return my normal state of well being. “ How you ask?” cocking your head to the side.
No, not because my epidermis is thicker than most or because I’m insensitive to words. The reason criticism does not hurt my heart because the praise never goes to my head.
Thus when I receive gratifying and humbling feedback the kind that makes me feel like-the-sun-on-an-overcast-day, I refuse to behave like the sun. Every time I read something positive about my book I remind myself that this positive review might be followed by a negative one. And when I read a negative review, I remind myself of the positive one. So in my universe everything stays balanced. The positive does not overshadow the negative and the negative does not overpower the positive.
Hope my take on negative criticism works for you too. If any of you have questions about writing fiction, please feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I will try my best to answer them based on my own writing experiences of nearly a decade.
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